Several months back, we were invited to a wedding, a full Nuptial Mass.
We were aware the girls were not invited to the reception. We did the same when we got married. Children and reception centres (and the bar tab that goes with a wedding reception) don't mix - not to mention the poor waiter/ess carrying the tray of drinks doesn't particularly like being tripped over.
They were, however, allowed to attend the ceremony.
Anyways, we'd made the girls aware of that, and we'd organised for That Woman to be able to look after them this Saturday night.
Yesterday, however, I got a phone call. The girls are no longer welcome at the church, either. Turns out the bride told her cousins (I presume long before now) that their children wouldn't be welcome at the church, so us turning up with the girls would be rude, did I understand?
The thing is,
uninviting the girls is more rude. The height of bad manners, in fact. Especially since up until Monday, Katharine and Bella had been counting down the days (Katharine had said on Monday morning that it was only 5 more days until the wedding).
So, here's my rant.
- You don't uninvite people. It's in bad taste, and poor form.
- You give people fair warning if circumstances change.
- If you're going to break a 4 and a seven year olds hearts, do it yourself. Don't expect their parents to have to tell them the bad news.
That is all, and you may now return to your previous programming.
EDIT: I got a call from Mark not long after I posted this. The girls are reinvited. We're going to spring it on them, surprise them. We'll tell them we're going out, and they have to wear the new dresses, and Mummy and Daddy will be wearing their new clothes, too